Kicking the habit (and taking up new ones)

21 10 2011

So yesterday (last night, actually) was interesting.

I had a particularly nasty headache. All I wanted to do was get home ASAP after work (check) and have a lie down (that’s a negative) before driving to a restaurant in Blouberg for a friend’s birthday.

Once we arrived there, my Significant Other insisted that we should each have a cocktail. I managed to make it through two-thirds of my pineapple & blueberry daiquiri before we went home (almost three hours with one drink/ beverage).

The only thing the girls seemed to be able to talk about, was gym (the closest I get to this is doing 15 minutes on our elliptical trainer every night) and dieting (said person already being thin and taking headache medication that has weight loss as a side effect)…

…so I ended up ordering a salad (lettuce, red cabbage, a few green beens and slivers of baby marrow & cucumber, about 2 or 3 halved cocktail tomatoes, and a minimal amount of chicken strips)…

…and exercising for 10 minutes when I got home.

I exercise my BRAIN by reading a lot - does that count?!

To top things off, when we parked the car in the garage, my Significant Other leaned over, kissed me (as is tradition), and told me that he wanted to tell me something upstairs. Fair enough – I though he was just going to be all cutesy and say that he loves me. But no: when we were in the apartment, he started this odd little speech about how’s he’s been thinking about something over the last few days and that he’s made a decision, et cetera – enough to make my heart start pounding with anxiety and to feel a heavy weight dropping in my stomach (ah, nausea, you sure have great timing).

And what did he end up telling me?

That he only had one cigarette left (he took it out of the packet and showed me)… and that, after that, he was going to quit smoking!!!

Apparently I didn’t look/ seem as overjoyed as I was ‘supposed’ to. I don’t have a problem with him smoking. I am glad that he made this decision for himself and will thus support him, but if he starts smoking again, so what? It won’t be the end of the world. (Though it’ll be tough when we go visit his parentals, because pretty much his entire family smokes.)

Since he’s decided to kick the habit, I think it’ll be a good idea for him (or us, actually) to start taking up a few new ones. For one thing, he can start using the elliptical trainer again. We could even get weights, and/ or do those exercises his physiotherapist gave him long ago (which he thinks is boring… so I’ll have to work out a rewards system *laugh*) It’s also a good thing that summer is coming, because that means more fruit and salads 🙂

I’m just hoping that this ‘new’ lifestyle will include plenty of sleep!!

Have a great Friday/ Fried-day, everyone.


Ah, Tuesday, my old friend…

2 08 2011

…you sure know how to keep a girl busy!

Once again I sat working through lunch time, taking up various tasks simultaneously, going hither and thither to check that things are being sorted out – and I’m surprised to find that it’s 4:30 PM.

And so, good friend, I think it’s time we dub you Productive Day…

Not that I’m not produtive on all the other days of the week (you ought to know that I always am!), but it does feel at times that other people are more responsive once they’ve gotten over their Moody, Melancholy Monday.

Now be a dear and tell Hump-Day to help guide what’s usually a rollercoaster of a week (every week) smoothly towards the weekend.

Ai haz a sad :-(

27 05 2011

Things haven’t been going so great lately.

Actually, they’ve been a bit ‘off’ since we got about midway through the honeymoon (not that the sadness/ unhappiness is related to the honeymoon or my Significant Other). Let’s just say that things got a bit out of control, people attacked and accused other people, but then everything was put onto me as if I myself had said bad/ mean things, and accordingly I have lost a friend (and, incidentally, probably the whole group of friends, since nobody has contacted me since; I’m too ‘afraid’ to contact them, because it feels like they’ll ignore me/ hate me/ completely scrap me as a friend…)

So yes, I’m feeling sad…

…because what happened wasn’t my fault…

…because I didn’t make any accusations…

…because I’m not the one who hates anybody else…

…because, because, because… :’-(

I can hardly wait to start working again next Wednesday – staying nice and busy during the day, then preparing supper and reading every evening. Life doesn’t need to be complicated, right?

Message Sessions I

7 03 2011

Dear Hypocrite

You may have deeply hurt my feelings by attacking my personality while acting caring (in your drunkenness) and telling me that the people there weren’t my friends – but I don’t think I’m the one with the problem. I was at the birthday party because I wanted to be there, not because I was doing anyone a favour. Just remember that you’re the one who said that nobody there was your friend (you even listed a few names) and then turned around to go gossip with them.


Odd one out yet proud of it


Dear Smudgy

Thank you for being so cute lately. Everyone thinks you’re gorgeous and full of personality. Plus you actually seem to love me and allow me to pick you up and hold you for more than a few seconds, which is far better than being ignored or bossed around. Just one request: could you ease up just the teensiest bit with the meowing?


Your human mommy


Dear visa office

I’m glad that the appointment this morning wasn’t as gruelling as I imagined (think big room with little furniture and a harsh interrogative style). You made things go both smoothly and quickly… So please see to it that our applications are accepted… Pretty please? I really really really want to go to Scotland – and making someone’s dream come true is the right thing to do… Right?

Fingers crossed

Castle enthusiast


Dear stress [also known as OCD]

You’re always there, no matter how subtle or obtrusive and bursting at the seams. However, you’re not doing too much damage at this point to my nervous system, and I’d like us to stay on a good footing, so could you do me a favour and keep it that way? I assure you that there’ll be plenty of time in the not-too-distant future (like directly after the honeymoon) to get me all worked up about things like finding a job, debt, and many more excruciating aspects.


Someone who wonders if she should start drinking coffee again


Dearest Significant Other

I love you. You are absolutely wonderful – we’ve been together for more than three years, and in two months’ time we’ll be married (give or take a few hours). I must warn you, though, that as it was your idea to write our own vows, something which you are now placing entirely upon me since you’re ‘not good with words’ and ‘not a writer like me’, I just might take a friend of mine’s advice and put in a vow that you have to do all the housework or something to that extent. You do realize that you’re giving me carte blanch, right? How’s this: “To have many chores to do and to hold all the household responsibilities (&blame!!)”

Just kidding,

Your adoring almost-wife ❤


Dear weight

All I ask of you is to drop with two or three (maybe four) kilograms in order for everything to be hunky dory when it comes to my wedding dress – is that so much to ask?!

Watching you,

Less nom nom nom-ing


Dear Libby and Addy

If I had a choice (and I know that I don’t and never will have one), I wouldn’t have chosen two others sisters, because out of all the girls/ women on earth, you’re the ones I’d rather be stuck in the middle with (if you catch my no-I’m-not-the-youngest-I’m-actually-the-second-out-of-three-daughters drift… what a mouthful!)





Since I’m actually a book-in-my-hand lover, kudos to you for giving me the ‘real book’ experience. Now I just need people to send me some Barnes & Noble gift cards so I can buy more books (*hint-hint*)… I don’t want to spend the money on my Significant Other’s credit card. That’d simply make me feel like I’m taking advantage of him. You’re (t)E-rrific!

Reading in earnest,

Slightly ‘converted’ book lover

Scattered Brainings XII

24 02 2011

* Who invented the bags that flour, sugar, and other necessities/ baking materials are packaged in? How do they think we’re supposed to get it open without ripping it apart (okay, I exaggerate, let’s rather say ‘tear’) since the glue is so stubborn?

* I’ve been really lazy this last week or two when it comes to reading… and yet, when one takes into consideration that we’re nearing the end of February, is it amazing, sad or scary to think that I have already read 26 books this year?

* My Significant Other’s a programmer, while I’m pro-grammar. It works.

* I have learnt that boredom leads you to doing things that you haven’t done in a very long time: painting your toenails… then adding a top layer with golden glitter/ shimmer in *sigh*

* “For a crazy cat lady, what comes first? The cats or the crazy?”

* We had quite a fon-due (fun do, get it?) over the weekend with amazing friends of ours. Pity that I don’t eat pork – besides bacon & ham – but I’m very pleased with myself that I wasn’t nauseous… although it was close, at one point during the evening. Hurray for endurance!

* I cried while watching EAT PRAY LOVE. Not really because of the film, but because I was feeling oddly emotional at the time. It was fun watching it with two programmers/ developers, though.

* Smudgy is a real opportunist. While I was taking a shower the other day, she stole the rest of my oats cookie (she did look a little bit guilty). And if I’m sitting on her chair, she’ll meow at me to get off… and sometimes even meow some more until I put the fan on! Such a demanding little miss.

* I love buying people gifts that they love, want and appreciate 🙂

* FUTURAMA is better than I remember. Back in the day I watched the first season, found the characters annoying, then dropped it. Now I even laugh or smile in amusement at times… because yes, stupidity is funny.

* Found out that a writer friend of mine is going to name a very minor ‘character’ (who the reader only hears about) after me in his latest book. Then a lot of other people can mispronounce my name – goody! 😉

* Some Facebook games are really stupid. Take your relationship, match it to the fruit on this list and then post it on your status to show your support for Breast Cancer Awareness? Uh-huh… Some people have whole fruit salads going on!!…

*…Soon (i.e. upon getting married) I’ll be going from an apple to a banana – what a transition!

* Thank you very much, Universe. You seem to want me to be jobless.

* Cats are disgusting. Then again, they probably feel the say way about humans. Smudgy is busy playing with a huge grasshopper… in. our. apartment.

* I ❤ Stephen King. You’ll be hearing it until you get sick of it (and me) – and then some!

Christmas with Friends

20 12 2010

Typing the title to this post got this stuck in my head:

“Come on in, come to the place where fun never ends… come on it, it’s time to party with Garfield and Friends”.

And you wouldn’t be far off in saying that we had fun at our little Christmas dinner get together thingy yesterday.

Fifteen friends, an assortment of wine/ champagne glasses that didn’t match (I ‘sponsored’ seven), festive paper plates, Secret Santas and a hearty home-made meal served for an absolutely lovely time with amazing people… despite the fact that the to do was schedule for four-o’clock and the last two people only pitched up when it was nearly six-thirty (you know who you are…) 😉 At least my Significant Other and I pitched up at two-thirty to help with the preparations (not to mention supply 14 steak knives, at least).

We had an assortment of cocktail rolls, tender (succulent!) meat, saucy cauliflower with cheese, a potato and green bean dish, mini potatoes, sweet potato (mmm), jasmine rice… Quite a treat, and no mean feat to prepare for 15 people – so much love and appreciation to the three special ladies who made and organized everything!! Dessert was cantaloupe and watermelon with vanilla ice-cream, and the tastiest baked peach halves with chocolate biscuits and sherry. The girls were trying to figure out who each person’s Secret Santa was (apparently we weren’t allowed to tell each other, not even afterwards), while the guys were busy playing with one of said presents, not too bothered much with curiosity and such.

Just so ‘sad’ that, after such a wonderful, relaxing time, it’s back to work for three more days *sigh*

It seems like Christmas with Friends is going to be a yearly thing – though, in all fairness, next year should be the guys’ turn…

…however, they’ll probably opt for the easy-out solution and simply have a barbeque.

So pretty...

Notice all the different glasses?

Festive plates, Christmas crackers, place cards...

I baked and iced dove-shaped cookies, plus I made little bags with chocolate balls in for each person

Make time for…

22 11 2010

In our busy lives – or busy, at least, for a lot of people (not necessarily only at work, I’ll add) – we sometimes struggle to find or make the time to do things for ourselves. We worry, fret, stress, run around, multi-task, place things on the backburner, and find ourselves in a general state of don’t-bother-me-unless-it’s-really-important.

Given that, I believe that now, a few days over a month before Christmas, we should use this ‘festive’ time of cheer, love and relaxation to actually do those things: to find cheer in our lives, love those around us, and put in the effort (haha) to relax.

So, from last Monday until yesterday, 15 – 21 November, I’ve made time for…

* …family. Despite the fact that my parental home was broken into, I still had the time to have two sit down meals with my parentals. We (my Significant Other and I) also went to see his parents, even if it was only for an hour and a half to have a cup of coffee (tea for me) and cookies along with some conversation

* …friends. Something warm to drink at a coffee shop followed by a visit at our apartment. Even though I have to listen to the computer (read: geek) speak and all that, I love listening to the friends as they talk.

* …going to the movies. We went to see the first instalment of HARRY POTTER AND THE DEATHLY HALLOWS Friday evening. What an amazing film! I was (and still am) very impressed with how well they dealt with things that were in the book, and I do not feel that they left out anything crucial. The group of people in the cinema with us were a bit odd and silly, laughing at inappropriate times, yet it was still enjoyable.

* …doing a favour for others. We went to fetch my younger sister in Stellenbosch, making three or four trips up to her room to ensure that we had taken all her stuff – which then filled the entire boot (and it’s quite spacious) as well as most of the back seat (including the floor space). Despite her snappy attitude and being quite mean and rude to me, the appreciation of my parentals made up for her lack of (real) gratitude.

* …being silly. Which is what couples often do. Drinking champagne while having a bubble bath late-ish on a Saturday evening? Why not?!

* …reading. Last Monday I finished reading I SHALL WEAR MIDNIGHT by Terry Pratchett. Despite the fact that I worked all day, had to prepare meals, and the fact that we had plans Tuesday through Friday (evenings), I still managed to read the latest Stephen King novel (FULL DARK, NO STARS)… and Jeffery Deaver’s short story collection TWISTED – comprising of 418 pages – yesterday. On to EVIL AT HEART by Chelsea Cain 🙂

* …a bit of a treat. Okay, yes, I’m on a healthy eating ‘diet’ – and I’ve been doing pretty well. So I had a Tempo Powernut bar at work on Thursday, and two ystervarkies (lamingtons) yesterday. At least I was able to stay away from cheesecake.

These are but a few things, seemingly ‘insignificant’, yet they are little things that can brighten up one’s day. Now I just need to start exercising… won’t that be fun… :-/

What are you making time for?